ACCEPTING CHANGE 

Change can be particularly stressful for young people. Why? You’re already going through internal changes by virtue perusal of this post, as you assimilate this content. External changes just add to the stress that you ponder and decide to adjust to the idea. You here about a thing of change, think of how it could affect you; positively or negatively, before taking the next step.

Observable fact of change is indeed inevitable to all including plants and animals. Factually speaking, invents comes and goes paving way for a difference to creep in. That difference that creeps in is otherwise known as change. Every second on earth brings about change in one’s life; the degree of change depends on the receiver of it. This is the only permanent thing on earth and every planet.

When one is confronted with the realities of life, change is said to manifest to your greatest surprise. Of a truth, not all unexpected events are bad, many increase the goodness of life in the world. And some changes that at first seem to be bad might turn out to be advantageous. Nevertheless, most people thrive on routine, while change whether good or bad rattles their comfort zone.

You can learn to adapt. Be flexible to a new development that enables you recovery from misfortune or adjusts to change. Flexibility can not only make you withstand a new circumstance but also look at a seeming obstacle and see an opportunity in it. Inflexibility in a young man is more likely to turn to drugs or alcohol when they feel overwhelmed.

Also, when adults face a change, they can refer to their personal ‘record of experience’ to see how they previously dealt with the situation of that sort. This is so because young people have no much experience of life to stand on. It is clear that the more the experience the more one stand firm on the ground of trouble that may come as change.

The Change could come in the following ways:

RELOCATION

Because of office change of parent, the residence would equally change likewise friends and loved ones. In like manner, one can make new friends, acquire new environment and establish new experience to keep the life of change moving. This could equally be that one’s love, friend or relative so dear travels perhaps far away sometimes unexpectedly. The absent of fun fares are far felt and loneliness could come into play. Marrying out of a daughter, sister or friend could likewise create a vacuum as well. The things that she used to do would elude you, especially the physical presence will be missing.

Just like a tree that can bend with the wind is more likely to survive a storm. If stiff to the strength of the wind, havoc could come in. So like that tree, you can learn to bend with changes over which you have little or no control over. Before discussing how you can do that, though, consider a few things you should know about the change.

ACCEPTABILITY

It is obvious no doubt that you would like to have total control of your life, but that is simply not possible. Friends will move away or marry; siblings will grow up and leave home; circumstances may force your family to move, leaving behind friends and all that is familiar. It is better to accept reality than to let negative thoughts overwhelm you. Accept it the way it comes with good confidence and courage.

FUTURISTIC

Focusing on the past is like driving on a highway with your eyes fixed on the rearview mirror. An occasional glance is beneficial, but you really need to concentrate on the road ahead. The same is true when you are confronted with change. Think more of the future as focus on the future. For example, you could earmark things to venture into next month, or six months?

POSITIVISM

Adjustment is about attitude, says a young woman named Laura. Find positive aspects of the circumstance you are in. Can you list at least one advantage that your new circumstance could offer?

A young woman named Victoria recalls that in her teen years, all her close friends moved away. “I felt so lonely, and I wished that everything could have stayed the way it was,” she says. “But looking back, that’s when I really started to grow. I came to realise that growth requires change. That’s also when I started seeing possibilities for new friendships that were all around me.

Thought in the past is more retrogressive and nothing comes out of it. Focusing on the past is like driving on a highway with your eyes fixed on the rearview mirror. Do things for others. A good antidote to your own challenge is helping others with theirs. As I grew older, I came to realise that when I could help someone else who might be going through a similar situation or a worse one it was rewarding!